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LostNConfused
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« on: November 25, 2008, 09:46:21 AM »

To say I feel stupid and embarassed being in this situation is an understatement, but I am lost and confused....

Two and half years ago, I married a young lady from a foreign country.  She has a son from a previous marriage.  They arrived here in February of 2007 (about 22 months ago) and moved into my house.  They brought no money, no assets.  I arranged for a small job for her that she earned a few thousands dollars and a babysitting job for another thousand during the summer.  But all the money she earned, she kept for herself.  I never asked her to contribute to the family expenses, ever.  The relationship has been strained almost the entire time.  I understand the difficulties of moving from a foreign country and leaving behind friends and family.  That, and other issues have contributed to the demise of the marriage.  When I talked to her about the failure of the marriage, I discovered she wasn't so broke up about that as she was not getting her green card.  She even asked me to help her find another husband.  Gee, for some reason, I have this strong feeling that the marriage wasn't really about me, but more about getting a green card to America.  So, now that I have disclosed all of that....my questions....

I live in Alabama.  I own (well, the bank really owns it, but my name is on the mortgage) the house that we live in and no other property.  I know she can't touch my currently eviserated 401k due to the short length of the marriage.  I am still carrying $14K debt from the wedding, the hineymoon, two flights over for me, the expenses of the visa for her and son, a vacation and gifts for her family, and their flight to the USA.  Given all of that, what, if any amount will I be expected to pay for child support of the stepson and alimony to her?  I am trying to get this settled amicably (hopefully using Lee) and I would like to know what my expectations should be.

Thanks in advance for any advice!

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« Reply #1 on: November 25, 2008, 10:14:28 AM »

unless you have legally adopted the steson you shouldn't have to pay any child support for him.

have you contacted an attorney yet?
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« Reply #2 on: November 25, 2008, 11:56:28 AM »

I have not legally adopted him.  I didn't think I would have to pay any child support, but I wasn't certain.

I have not contacted an attorney yet.  I was hoping to get "rough" answers to the basic questions and then discuss our "options" with my wife.  I would prefer to do this all through Lee Borden (the Alabama onoine divorce attorney).  I didn't want to contact him being totally in the dark either.

I also didn't want to plan to not pay her anything, but I wanted to know what i might be obligated to pay her.  Especially since the marriage was so short (22 months living as husband and wife...legally at 29 months).
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« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2008, 06:25:40 AM »

LostNConfused has double posted, which has raised the opportunity for inconsistent information. All of this is thoroughly explored on the Alabama board at http://divorceinfo.com/heo/index.php/topic,14743.0.html, so go there if you want to find out about it. Let's not post any more on this topic here, please.
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