HEO has a great archive!! I just found my first post about 3.5 years ago. I was in a bad spot and this bunch of people really helped me out. My husband had just left, within 3 months, my brother-in-law passed away, and 6 weeks later, my sister-in-law and nephew were in a horrible accident. I didn't know if I was coming or going. But these guys helped hold me together. Since then, my sister has remarried to another wonderful man (how come she gets 2 and I don't get any???  ) And my sister-in-law they said would never walk again is walking with a cane and just had her 4th child!! My nephew is completely healed and playing ball again. I had to sell my home, but there was a back up plan in place and we have weathered the move. I left a job I had worked my butt off for 8 years at, but God has provided for that for us too. I'm in the psych program and headed straight for grad school to pursue my license. I'm enjoying rich friendships and my son and I are the happiest and healthiest we have ever been. We don't have much more than we had before, but we have  learned to better appreciate it.

Thank you HEO for helping me get there. I hope that I can repay the favor.

You're always talking about all of this dancing you're doing but you're here all the time. When do you have time to do all of this dancing you're talking about?

You have found a group of wonderful folks who are either traveling the divorce trail with you or have finished the trail and have come back to help others along the way.

Welcome to HEO and let us know how we can help.

Hi Hischild

I assume the trail you talk about is divorce. It is a long trail with many ups and downs along the way. Take time to look inside yourself at what faults you may have brought into your marriage. But also realize that most of the time it is not just one person's fault. Find what you need to fix in you and then move forward. The pain eases with time, but it takes quite a while. There are many other people here that are ready to help you but the more information you give us the better we can help you.

Welcome to our little famliy.

Welcome to HEO. What can we help you with?

I am just staring out on this trail, and some help would be great....

But it calmed me down. A friend (different group) arranged a dance for me last night at a place eeriely similar to where I first met the dance partner. I wore the dress I had when this whole episode exploded to remove memories of the last time I had those clothes on. Some people from that time where there too to celebrate my birthday. Been almost calm all day today. Another group of friends arranged for a dance tonight at a location with the same name that I used to go to but is now being hounded by ex partner and gang. They just want to help me exorcise my last image of them there and celebrate my birthday with a more positive memory. I go home tomorrow early morning.

Husband, son and friends have made plans to come and celebrate tomorrow night at a family restaurant as well. These friends came out of the woodwork after finding out that I made the decision to break off from the dance partner. I was not imagining things or exagerating things that he did, the inappropriate actions he took and the vengeance he has undertaken. Apparently, these friends disconnected from me because of him and their experiences with him and are now reconnecting because he is gone.

Psych doctor wants to "verify insurance information' before giving me an appointment so I guess we have to wait till Monday OR after Thanksgiving for that visit. Meanwhile, what am I supposed to do? I do what I can to self-medicate till the appointment is made or this hypomania passes. Thank you all for not trying to knock me down when I am already down. I am still here and listening to all your advises. I do read a lot and yes, I do a lot of research as well.

So TC had some emotion in his post. If you think that is terrible, you should ride with me at work sometime. You'll hear some real words then.

One of my favorite Bill Cosby bits ever, and it fits perfectly here.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IJ6jZv4S4VQ

Only if you do not consider the following "anything", Wolfy:


And I'm not your ex, EIE.    I am still on the fence on whether to swing that way in the future or not!