ADHD children and learning disabilites want spouse to pay 1/2 tutor & sp school

[reba1]

I am the mother of 2 daughters with ADHD.  My major dilemma is my 15 year old, she is very bright (IQ 136) and has been diagnosed with ADD, dyslexia, dysgraphia and written expression disorder.  Her Neuropsychologist determined that she needed both tutoring services and working with a strategic learning coach to help her with her disabilities.I  have been divorced for 8 years and am in the process of modifiying my child support.  When I asked for modification several years ago I asked for my ex husband to pay for 1/2 of the special school specifically for children with learning disabilities- my attorney told me it would be very difficult becuse I would have to get people to testify etc. That the written documentation from her psychiatrist stating that such a school would be best for her as well as needed tutors etc.  I paid 3 years of tuition on my credit card...

I am asking my attorney to work at getting my ex to pay for 1/2 of the tutors and strategic learning coach which I have hired for my oldest daughter.  What documentation would stand up in court so that I w ;)ould not have to fly doctors in etc.

[chill]

Can you not show the IEP and section 504 plus reciepts from the services........or add in to the wording that he covers half of what you are asking for your special needs children?

[m_t]

Thing is - he has the right to question these people as well, and the court will require that they be present. What you COULD ask for (no guarantee that it will be granted) is that they be permitted to appear via phone.

[TC]

The problem with these issues is that medicine is NOT an exact science.  For every doctor that will diagnose the child as having a learning disability, you can also find one that will say the child just needs more one one one time at home.

I don't have a clear answer here and it is unfortunate as the child is the one that will ultimately suffer.  It is too bad the parents can't just work together on this....but sometimes that isn't the way it works.  My ex and I could never reach agreement.  She found Doctors who diagnosed my son as ADHD and put him on Ritlin...made a friggin zombie out of him....in my opinion, all he needed was a little more attention...I refused to give him his ritlin when he was with me during the summers and I never had a problem with him.

My only suggestion would be to see if dad and mom could find enough common ground to try and go and listen to the Doctor's together.....

As for getting a court order....I'd say it is doubtful at this point....the status quo has been established.  Mom has paid for the extra care for several years and apparently had no problem with dad not contributing....the courts will wonder why all of a sudden this is changing...especially for a 15 year old.

TC

[reba1]

I sent in the final modification papers yesterday.  My attorney said that I could take it all before a judge but that in his 20 years of practicing law in McClennan County, Texas he has never seen the child support exceed the norm - for any reason.  Sad, the children will suffer as I am unable to save anything towards college and I want them to have a great future.  He of couse does not have to pay for any of the college bill either.

[TC]

Keep your fingers crossed and take things one day at a time.

At least now you are not overly optimistic....and who knows, maybe the judge will surprise all of us.

TC