that's really sad Jan.
I know it hurts you to see them treated so poorly by thier father. It must be worse when he can find time for one child but not another one.
((((hugs)))) to all of you.
It is sad. He contacted one of the twins by text yesterday and told her that he didn't text her on her birthday for two reasons... one because he was in the mountains and didn't have good cell reception (although he was with our older two children and they both contacted their sisters to wish them a happy birthday) and the other reason was because he is lazy. She told me that she didn't even respond to the text. She is very hurt and told me she is "done". The saddest part is that I don't think he cares. He is so far removed from parenting now. He doesn't do anything to work on his relationship with his children. They do it all.
I hope someday he realizes his mistake and at least attempts to make amends.