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Rebound Relationships After DivorceYes, friend, you're there. You have wandered into Rebound Land. Unlike many others, I have a high opinion of rebound relationships. I think they're an important part of the healing process. Nearly everyone who emerges from divorce does so with nagging doubts about whether he or she is attractive enough, sexy enough, or charming enough to find a life mate. And there's nothing like a good ole' steamy rebound relationship to remind you that you've still got it, that you can indeed bring pleasure to another. So enjoy. Revel in this new and thrilling intimacy. Just please, please, please, don't confuse it with love. All of us enter into relationships because they fill some need for us. We may need somebody to support us financially, or we may need somebody to listen, or we may just need a hug. Many of us enter into a relationship simply because it's better than being alone. In your pre-divorce days, and soon again now that you're moving through divorce, you had high standards for the people you trusted. Right now, though, that's not the case. Most people emerge from divorce with the boundaries lowered. They don't just reach out to others. They LUNGE for help, and their judgment gets clouded about which relationships are likely to have the most staying power. And again, that's part of the recovery process. Have fun. Date around. Rediscover what makes you special. Trust me, you'll find it. |
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