The first thing you need to do is to take a deep breath. Of course you’re panicked. Of course you believe that the world is crashing in around you. That’s what you’re supposed to be feeling. The fact is, though, that you’re very likely to get through this okay.
Think about it. Last year in the U.S. alone, there were more than one million divorces. That’s two million people who have gone through this recently and and have lived to tell about it. They got through it. So can you.
Now take another deep breath. See? You’ll make it okay, friend. Now let’s get started.
Read some of the information on Cutting Through the Crud. There’s lots of information there about the divorce process and about how you and your spouse can get through it without killing each other.
As you get more knowledgeable about the Crud, you’ll begin gathering information about the main issues of your divorce. This will include your property division, what arrangements to make for your children if you have them, and what sort of child support or alimony is appropriate in your case. And after (but only after) you have some basic information under your belt, you can begin thinking about what kind of professional help you’re going to need.
Divorce stinks - there’s no question about that. Your challenge is to get through it, one step at a time. You’re going to make it. Really.